Things can go wrong

When things are not going like we would want them to go, why do we focus on the outside and spend our energy whining?

We have a limited amount of energy that we can use; it’s up to us to use it wisely. The wise will always invest his time and energy in what he thinks will bring back the best return.

“I can't change the direction of the wind, but I can adjust my sails to always reach my destination.”

 - Jimmy Dean

Let me tell you a little story.

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Marc was working in a big jeans factory. He was in his 15 years over there and things were great. He was earning a good salary and he spent most of it every month. He did put some on the side for bad time. He was living a good life without much worry.

Joe was also working at the same factory and earning the same salary as Marc. He did not put more on the side and was living a good life without much worry too.

Things weren’t going as good as they did, but the factory was still running at 75% of its capacity. So, Joe and Marc weren’t worried that something bad would happen.

Then someday, the factory closed. Bang! No warning! Joe and Marc just showed up to a lock door with a note indicating that the factory was in bankruptcy. They got a compensation for one month salary and it was all.

Marc got really angry and started a group to protest against the bankruptcy of the factory. He got into the media and worked really hard to build a public response to what they were living. He got a lot of fellow feeling from a lot of people. He got a lot of energy, but he did also spend a lot. He spent also a lot of time. That campaign didn’t bring him anything more then a moment of fame. 3 months later, he was still without a job or income.

Joe got angry about what happened. But he didn’t join Marc on his campaign of sympathy. He took a few days to think about his option and what he could do to find a way to make as much as he did with his old job. Joe started to apply for job the next week. It was hard, he wasn’t alone applying to those jobs, but he didn’t give up. He kept going on, investing a lot of time and energy toward finding a new job. 3 months later, he was still without a job.

Marc found out that he would not get his job back with the old factory. He would not get anything back with his anger campaign. People just got tired of him and he could not find a media to publish anything about his fight anymore. His fame was fading fast. So Marc started to look around to see what he could do to change his situation. He started to apply for new jobs. 4 month later he was still without a job.

Joe didn’t give up and kept applying for new job. He was getting more and more chances to get an interview and sell himself to a lot of good company. He didn’t know what would happen, but he kept on applying daily for new jobs. 4 month later he was still without a job.

Marc didn’t have enough energy to really keep himself motivated. His past 3 month of campaign drained a lot of his energy. He’s doing his best to apply to new jobs, but he’s doing it with what he has left of motivation. 5 month later he was still without a job.

Joe finally found a good job in a good company. He’s motivated and looks behind to what happen as a great opportunity to find a job with this great company. He’s positive about the future. 5 month later he has found a great new job.

Marc just can’t put enough energy into his job search. His results are low and his interview results are even worst. Some of the new employer recognises him for the protest campaign he did for his old job. Some of those new employers didn’t agree with Marc and discard him as a trouble maker. Marc is discouraged; he’s talking all the time about the way he lost his job and how bad it is for him. He wants others to take care of him and give him a new job. He think he deserve it because he lost a lot. 12 month later he was still without a job.

Joe is happy in his new job. He’s investing a lot of energy to make his mark and gain the respect of his fellow worker and employer. 12 months later he’s happy in his new job.

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Marc and Joe are two good people. They didn’t deserve to loose their job. Between the two, Joe got the better.

Why Joe did get the better result?

-          First, he took the time to look around for his options.

-          Second, he chooses the action that would bring him what he wanted (a new job).

-          He worked hard. Investing a lot of energy into that project. He kept himself motivated and positive to reach his goal.

-          He didn't give up even if the result were long to come.

Marc did what a lot of people would have done. He got angry about something that he could not change. He worked hard to change that and he lost time and energy that would have been best invested into something more positive. In the end, he had to take the same road as Joe, but when he got on that road he didn't had the energy he had when he lost his job. With less energy, he couldn't do a good job as did Joe. And it’s the main reason why he never got half of the result that did Joe.

We all have choices to make. We all have battle to choose. What ever you choose, you’ll have to live with it.

Yes, maybe Marc could have won something with his campaign. But let’s be real, the company gave him what the law ask them to give, and it was money because they closed the factory. Bankruptcies are under law. You can do a lot of noise about it, but it will not make much more then that…   noise…

Choose your fight! You are the one to choose where you should invest your energy. And choose wisely, because when your energy is spent, it’s gone. You can’t change the past.

“It is during our darkest moments that we must focus to see the light.”

 - Aristotle Onassis

Don’t focus your energy on negative action.

Look to the future and invest your energy to make it better.

The Shark

I think that it’s great for us to help someone else. But I don’t like when people use others to get what they want without giving back.

The great philosopher Andre Moreau once told me about a shark waiting under our happiness. The shark is lurking deep under your level of happiness. When you are living a happy moment, give a happy moment to others. If you don’t, then the shark comes from under, grab you and bring you back down into unhappy land.

“Help others and give something back. I guarantee you will discover that while public service improves the lives and the world around you, its greatest reward is the enrichment and new meaning it will bring your own life.”

 - Arnold Schwarzenegger

“The more credit you give away, the more will come back to you. The more you help others, the more they will want to help you.”

 - Brian Tracy

Give without any hope of getting anything back and you shall get 3 times what you gave.

Mind to everything

“The mind is everything. What you think you become.”

 - Buddha

You are what you think. If you let the outside influence you, then you choose that to be your reality. Nothing outside can force your thinking. It’s always about your will to resist the influence and make your own choices. Too many people don’t take the time to think before they choose.

“We are what our thoughts have made us; so take care about what you think. Words are secondary. Thoughts live; they travel far.”

 - Swami Vivekananda

Too many people think they think, but in fact they only reproduce what they were told. Make up your mind on your own. Take the time to build your thinking and choose what is of value to you. Don’t become one among the many that think they know what they should think because many think like them.

“Your time is limited, so don't waste it living someone else's life. Don't be trapped by dogma - which is living with the results of other people's thinking. Don't let the noise of others' opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition.”

 - Steve Jobs

Learn to listen to your intuition. Not what others have told you to think, but the little voice inside of you. That little voice is there for you and you alone.

“There is no logical way to the discovery of these elemental laws. There is only the way of intuition, which is helped by a feeling for the order lying behind the appearance.”

 - Albert Einstein

Your intuition will help you understand what lies behind the appearance. It will guide you into the world of the real under the seams.

“Intuition is a spiritual faculty and does not explain, but simply points the way.”

 - Florence Scovel Shinn

It’s a little weird to talk about thinking and intuition in the same text.

Lucky

Luck, I think I’m a lucky man. I've been winning lottery a lot in my life. Not the big buck, but a lot of small one. I found out that most people don’t win that often. So, I guess that I’m a lucky guy.

Are you disturbed by my first statement in this post? If not, that first part of my post didn’t disturb you. Don’t you think that it’s a little disturbing in itself that you think it’s a good statement? Luck doesn’t exist. It’s a concept that is base on nothing.

Luck is like a religion, a lot of people are thinking that luck will come to them if they pray for it. This is wrong, luck doesn’t exist. And nothing will ever happen if you don’t take action.

“I've found that luck is quite predictable. If you want more luck, take more chances. Be more active. Show up more often.”

- Brian Tracy

…“Show up more often.”

Are you among the ones who get ups in the morning with the rush to start the day and a smile on your face? If you are, then you don’t need luck. You’re doing what is good for you, you have something that drives you to get up and smile. You have more then most of the people that are waiting on luck.

Find something that you love and work your ass in that until you’ll earn a living out of it. This is a simple concept that 98% of the populations in the world do not apply. Yes, it can be hard. Yes, you could have very difficult time. Yes, you could be earning little money for many years. But when things start to fly, there’s no telling where it will go.

“Luck is a dividend of sweat. The more you sweat, the luckier you get.”

 - Ray Kroc

Sweat more then the competition and you’ll be more lucky then them.

Doing good feels good

Doing good will make you feel good.

“Good actions give strength to ourselves and inspire good actions in others.”

 - Plato

You’ll feel good and you’ll get what you did to others. Doing good things will always bring good things to you.

“We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give.”

 - Winston Churchill

Smile when you give, it will change a lot of things inside you. Give with a good heart and without any means to get anything back.

When I say don’t think about getting anything back, I do mean it. If you expect something to come back, it won’t. Sorry, but giving without expecting anything back, it means without expecting anything back. Now you’ll say, how can I know if this is working if I don’t look out for what shall come back. If you need to know, then you haven’t done it without expecting anything back.

This is simple, but a lot of people don’t believe in this and just don’t trust it to work. So they end up destroying anything good they’re doing because they expect it to come back.

Here’s a news I found on www.huffingtonpost.com

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An unidentified man is being hailed as a hero for rushing into a burning building in Fresno, Calif., to rescue a senior citizen who was trapped inside.
“As I got out of the car, this woman came up with this baby and said, ‘My dad is in there! My dad is in there!’ I didn’t know what to do. I felt so helpless," Beth Lederach, who recorded the footage of the successful rescue, told the Fresno Bee.
Lederach said the hero seemed to come from nowhere.
“He just calmly walked right in there and then came walking right back out with this guy," Lederach told the newspaper.
The video shows the man walk into the smoke and flames. At one point, a crash or explosion sends other would-be rescuers fleeing, but not the hero, who emerges from the blaze with the 73-year-old man draped over his shoulder.
Little is known about the rescuer except that he seems to be a Dodgers fan, at least based on his cap. ABC News reports that he was checked out at a local hospital after the rescue. But then, he seems to have vanished.
The man who was rescued, Robert Wells, told KFSN-TV that he was connected to an oxygen tank and had difficulty escaping the fire. He said two people tried to help him, to no avail.
"I wasn't going fast enough, so a guy picked me up and carried me out there. He was kind of in a half a run," said Wells, who was treated for smoke inhalation. "Thank you from the bottom of my heart, that I made it out."

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That story is an extreme example of giving without expecting anything in return.

Here’s another nice story I found.

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Doing Good for Others, Does Good for You

I slipped through the revolving door of the office building I worked in and stepped onto the cracked sidewalk that lined Broad Street in Newark, New Jersey. A light drizzle and a depressing grey sky enhanced the depravity of the area. The buildings on both sides of the street were old and in need of repair or, in some instances, a wrecking ball.

A few seconds later, a woman wearing a coat four sizes too big for her - probably a throw away from the used clothing store down the street - stepped up to me, displayed a smile of many gaps and begged, "Mister, can you help a person out? I haven't eaten in almost two days."

I handed her a few quarters and watched her saunter off. She held her hand out as she walked and counted the change she'd collected on that dreary afternoon. I guessed food was the furthest thing from her mind - crack was more her line of nutrition.

That area and most of Newark were poverty stricken and ruled by drugs and crime.In the few short months I worked there, I'd witnessed a stolen car, pursued by police, turn a corner and hit another car head on. The thieves leapt from the wreckage and ran off with the police in hot pursuit. A month after that, a man's car was stolen from the parking lot behind our building while he negotiated the fee with the attendant. This was a place where you held your belongings tightly and didn't venture far after dark.

I walked to the corner, stopped by the door of the ATM machine, checked to be sure no one followed close and quickly slipped my bank card into the slot. There was a buzz and click as the door unlocked. I walked inside and made sure no one stepped in behind me.

I put my card into the machine and deposited my paycheck with a sigh of relief. As I turned to leave, I saw a wallet sitting on the counter. It sat next to a pen on a chain so thin a kitten could have snapped it. The wallet was brown, well used and contained three dollars, a driver's license, two credit cards, a bank card and a work permit from the United States Citizenship and Immigration Services. The name on the license was one I would not attempt to pronounce, but whoever he was, he was going to be in a panic over a wallet with his identification on it being lost in this city.

I put it in my pocket, walked to Penn Station and took the train home to Jersey City. In my apartment, I checked the online phone book and found no one to match the name on the cards in the wallet. I wanted to help the guy. If it had been my wallet, I would have been sick to my stomach with worry. I picked up the bank card and had a thought. On the back was the number to his bank.

"Thank you for calling Wachovia Bank. My name is Cindy, how may I help you?" "Hi, Cindy. I found a man's wallet at one of your bank machines today and am trying to track down the owner to return it to him."

"That's very nice of you sir. Can you give me the number on the card please?" I gave her the number. "Sir, that card has been reported stolen."

"I'm sure it has, but what he did was leave it on the shelf in the room where the ATM is. Can you give me his phone number? I want to arrange to meet with him to return his wallet."

"I'm sorry, sir, but we cannot give out the personal information of our clients."

"I understand. Can I give you my contact information? You could call him and tell him who I am."

"I can certainly do that, Sir."

I gave her my information and hung up.

I'd done all I could.

Two days later, a very thankful gentleman appeared at our front desk and received his belongings. He never dreamed he would see his wallet again, not one left at a bank machine in Newark.

Me?

I smiled all day long.  Doing good for others, does good for you.

~ Michael T. Smith ~
Copyright © 2012
<heartsandhumor@gmail.com>

http://www.skywriting.net/inspirational/stories/doing_good_for_others.html

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When you do something without any expectation on getting anything back, you don’t feel the need to know if anything will come back to you. And it will come back.

The good felling of doing it is what a lot of people will take as the return in doing it, but it’s only a part of what’s coming back. In the Wicca they have a rule of three. It means that what ever you send outside will come back to you three times. What this means, is that you’ll get back more then what you give away. It doesn’t mean you’ll get it back right away. It means that it will come back. If you do something with an egocentric mind, then you’ll get people treating you as that. Egocentric will do things for other because they expect to get back more.

Don’t be egocentric and give away without expecting anything more then the good feeling of doing it.

Attitude and success...

"Successful and unsuccessful people do not vary greatly in their abilities. They vary in their desires to reach their potential."

- John Maxwell

Do you have a desire?

Do you have a list of goal you want to reach?

Do you have dreams that are fueling your actions?

If you don’t have any of those, you’re doomed to fail.

Success is build up with a lot of things, but the first one is always action. If you don’t have the drive to make you move, then you’ll never reach success.

"If you have the will to win, you have achieved half your success; if you don't, you have achieved half your failure."

- David Ambrose 

Truth

Truth will always remain truth, but interpretation will always prevail over it.

“All things are subject to interpretation whichever interpretation prevails at a given time is a function of power and not truth.”

 - Friedrich Nietzsche

When someone else try to impose their truth to you, always remember that they interpret the truth. So the truth is almost always different to what they tell you.

You can even change the truth with your interpretation. Yes, you can build the truth on what you perceive of it. With time and intention you can also change the truth.

Science proves that when there’s someone looking, the result can change. Reality can change depending if someone is looking or not.

So, when you think you know the truth, you should realize that it’s yours and yours only. Others can join and share your truth, but they all have their own way to present it.

Habits for winner!

Habits define who you are and what you shall be.

Even if you don’t consciously know your habits, they exist and influence your life.

“We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit.”

 - Aristotle

The nice thing here is that you can consciously define your habits and change them. Changing them will help you choose better ones.

“Winning is not a sometime thing; it's an all time thing. You don't win once in a while, you don't do things right once in a while, you do them right all the time. Winning is habit. Unfortunately, so is losing.”

 - Vince Lombardi

The biggest difference between someone successful and someone who’s not is the habits they choose to have in their life.

What are those habits for success?

From the book “The seven habits of highly effective people” by Stephen R. Covey.

     Independence:

-          Be proactive: Take initiative in life by realizing that your decisions (and how they align with life’s principles) are the primary determining factor for effectiveness in your life. Take responsibility for your choices and the consequences that follow.

-          Begin with the end in mind: Self-discover and clarify your deeply important character values and life goals. Envision the ideal characteristics for each of your various roles and relationships in life.

-          Put first things first: A manager must manage his own person. Personally. And managers should implement activities that aim to reach the second habit. Covey says that rule two is the mental creation; rule three is the physical creation.

Interdependence

-          Think win-win: Genuine feeling for mutually beneficial solutions or agreements in your relationships. Value and respect people by understanding a “win” for all is ultimately a better long-term resolution than if only one person in the situation had gotten his way.

-          Seek first to understand, then to be understood: Use empathic listening to be genuinely influenced by a person, which compels them to reciprocate the listening and take an open mind to being influenced by you. This creates an atmosphere of caring, and positive problem solving.

-          Synergize: Combine the strengths of people through positive teamwork, so as to achieve goals no one person could have done alone.

      Continuous improvements

-          Sharpen the saw: Balance and renew your resources, energy, and health to create a sustainable, long-term, effective lifestyle. It primarily emphasizes exercise for physical renewal, prayer (meditation, yoga, etc.) and good reading for mental renewal. It also mentions service to society for spiritual renewal.

Kindness is good

Never underestimate the power of doing something good. Being kind should never be seen as a negative way of being. Be kind all the time.

“No act of kindness, no matter how small, is ever wasted.”

 - Aesop

Yes, if you’re doing something kind without any hope of getting something back in return, then you’re truly a kind person.

Even kindness done to make a show is still a good thing.

This is a story I found online. I just love this one. Simple and so powerful.

Today You, Tomorrow Me

--by Justin Horner, posted Mar 10, 2011

During this past year I’ve had three instances of car trouble: a blowout on a freeway, a bunch of blown fuses and an out-of-gas situation. They all happened while I was driving other people’s cars, which for some reason makes it worse on an emotional level. And on a practical level as well, what with the fact that I carry things like a jack and extra fuses in my own car, and know enough not to park on a steep incline with less than a gallon of fuel.

Each time, when these things happened, I was disgusted with the way people didn’t bother to help. I was stuck on the side of the freeway hoping my friend’s roadside service would show, just watching tow trucks cruise past me. The people at the gas stations where I asked for a gas can told me that they couldn’t lend them out "for safety reasons," but that I could buy a really crappy one-gallon can, with no cap, for $15. It was enough to make me say stuff like "this country is going to hell in a handbasket," which I actually said.

But you know who came to my rescue all three times? Immigrants. Mexican immigrants. None of them spoke any English.

One of those guys stopped to help me with the blowout even though he had his whole family of four in tow. I was on the side of the road for close to three hours with my friend's big Jeep. I put signs in the windows, big signs that said, "NEED A JACK," and offered money. Nothing. Right as I was about to give up and start hitching, a van pulled over, and the guy bounded out.

He sized up the situation and called for his daughter, who spoke English. He conveyed through her that he had a jack but that it was too small for the Jeep, so we would need to brace it. Then he got a saw from the van and cut a section out of a big log on the side of the road. We rolled it over, put his jack on top and we were in business.

I started taking the wheel off, and then, if you can believe it, I broke his tire iron. It was one of those collapsible ones, and I wasn’t careful, and I snapped the head clean off. Damn.

No worries: he ran to the van and handed it to his wife, and she was gone in a flash down the road to buy a new tire iron. She was back in 15 minutes. We finished the job with a little sweat and cussing (the log started to give), and I was a very happy man.

The two of us were filthy and sweaty. His wife produced a large water jug for us to wash our hands in. I tried to put a 20 in the man’s hand, but he wouldn’t take it, so instead I went up to the van and gave it to his wife as quietly as I could. I thanked them up one side and down the other. I asked the little girl where they lived, thinking maybe I’d send them a gift for being so awesome. She said they lived in Mexico. They were in Oregon so Mommy and Daddy could pick cherries for the next few weeks. Then they were going to pick peaches, then go back home.

After I said my goodbyes and started walking back to the Jeep, the girl called out and asked if I’d had lunch. When I told her no, she ran up and handed me a tamale.

This family, undoubtedly poorer than just about everyone else on that stretch of highway, working on a seasonal basis where time is money, took a couple of hours out of their day to help a strange guy on the side of the road while people in tow trucks were just passing him by.

But we weren’t done yet. I thanked them again and walked back to my car and opened the foil on the tamale (I was starving by this point), and what did I find inside? My $20 bill! I whirled around and ran to the van and the guy rolled down his window. He saw the $20 in my hand and just started shaking his head no. All I could think to say was, "Por favor, por favor, por favor," with my hands out. The guy just smiled and, with what looked like great concentration, said in English: "Today you, tomorrow me."

Then he rolled up his window and drove away, with his daughter waving to me from the back. I sat in my car eating the best tamale I’ve ever had, and I just started to cry. It had been a rough year; nothing seemed to break my way. This was so out of left field I just couldn’t handle it.

In the several months since then I’ve changed a couple of tires, given a few rides to gas stations and once drove 50 miles out of my way to get a girl to an airport. I won’t accept money. But every time I’m able to help, I feel as if I’m putting something in the bank.

[From a post on reddit.com and re-published in NY Times.]

Found here:

http://www.kindspring.org/story/view.php?sid=25237

“Treat those who are good with goodness, and also treat those who are not good with goodness. Thus goodness is attained. Be honest to those who are honest, and be also honest to those who are not honest. Thus honesty is attained.”

 - Lao Tzu

Be good with everyone and all the time. You’re never too good. Those who can’t accept your good action will remember it the longest. In the end, good always bring back good.

“Kindness in words creates confidence. Kindness in thinking creates profoundness. Kindness in giving creates love.”

 - Lao Tzu

Only good can come to someone who is kind in everything.

The art of giving

Giving away because you feel like it’s the right thing to do; because your heart is ok with it. Give away because you feel like it's the right thing to do, then it's a good thing to do.

If you expect a return, you don't really give away. You just trade. Trading is not really in the flow of life.

When you trade, you don't give.

"Give without expecting return --- give because your heart moves you to give --- give because it's your joy to give --- and you're in the flow of life itself." Joe Vitale

You know when you give for real. You get this good feeling inside that you are doing something good. That feeling never lies, it’s pure and true.

Don’t separate yourself from others. We’re all interconnected. When you give away, you give to yourself. When you help someone else, you help yourself.

We’re all interconnected. We share the good and bad with everyone.

Failure

Sick of Failure? We Have The Cure.

Wow, this is a great title!

But it’s also very wrong. There’s no cure to failure. There’s nothing outside of you that will change the fact that you are a failure. The only power that can change it…  Is you.

For those who blame the failure on someone else, you are as far away from breaking free as it can be. Blaming failure on someone else is blaming failure on you. Nothing is out there. Everything is connected.

“A man can fail many times, but he isn't a failure until he begins to blame somebody else.”

 - John Burroughs

If you want to break free from failure, you have to take the full responsibility of everything right now. Everything that you are aware of, you are responsible of.

Taking responsibility is the first step to break free from failure.

The second step is to transform failure into a teaching process. Learning instead of whining. Those who can master this step can see failure in a positive way and transform it.

“It's fine to celebrate success but it is more important to heed the lessons of failure.”

 - Bill Gates

Happy?

Are you happy?

Do you know why you are or aren’t?

Are you focusing on the environment you are in to be happy?

“Most folks are as happy as they make up their minds to be.”

 - Abraham Lincoln

Happiness is coming from you. You choose to be or not happy.

Don’t let the outside world dictate how happy you are.

“I am determined to be cheerful and happy in whatever situation I may find myself. For I have learned that the greater part of our misery or unhappiness is determined not by our circumstance but by our disposition.”

 - Martha Washington

Disposition is the key to happiness. It’s so simple that most people just don’t realize it. It’s so much easier to say that you are not responsible of your happiness. Even if you say so, it will not make it easier for you to be happy.

Choose to be happy. Start the day with a good though about how great your day will be. Start the day telling yourself that you’ll have a great day with lots of happy moments. Start the day with the intention to be happy.

“Happiness depends upon ourselves.”

 - Aristotle

Good life!

Good life

What does it mean?

“Our lives are not determined by what happens to us but by how we react to what happens, not by what life brings to us, but by the attitude we bring to life. A positive attitude causes a chain reaction of positive thoughts, events, and outcomes. It is a catalyst, a spark that creates extraordinary results.” - Unknown

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From WikiHow

How to Have a Good Life

Live within your means. Budget if necessary, and recycle as much as possible to save funds and your environment.

Pay attention to your thoughts, feelings & actions. Let go of any feelings that may cause you, or other people, harm.

Do things that are helpful. Open the door for someone, hold an elevator for someone, and yield your seat to others.

Be spontaneous. This keeps the mind able to be creative, and spontaneous assistance is less likely to be fueled by expectation of something in return.

Appreciate the things that you have. You won't have them forever, so be content.

Practice kindness & tolerance. Especially with yourself, if you can't be kind to yourself, you can't be kind to others

Smile. Occasionally the main reason we don't, is because our faces have settled into a dour expression. Use those smile muscles!

Exercise, and eat healthily. Even if it’s just walking, or doing housekeeping. Staying active will keep you active long term.

If you can't afford to give gifts, make your own preserves. Plants & flowers, or crafts instead.

Meet friends. Keep contact with those you appreciate, and who appreciate you. Friends that use you as a comfort rug or doormat may be exploiting you, and your well-being. Know your neighbors, family and people around you, while respecting their privacy.

Try to fix your own problems. That way, you can understand them better.

Explore & Experiment. Go on holidays or even travel your local area if you've never seen it. Try new ideas, cuisines, cultures, courses & languages. By taking a gamble on things and working with the results is truly living.

Visit museums, art galleries, botanic gardens, opera & orchestras, and other community events and fairs. These services are there for people to see, and are often run by volunteers themselves.

Set your limits. Know what you can do, what you can accept. Practice equanimity for the things you can't.

Tips

• Never look down on people. Treat people how you'd want to be treated.
• Always help out other people because you never know when you might need those people to help you.
• Study hard. It will be helpful in the future.
• Always try to be helpful in the places you can, and accept the times you cannot.
• Life is what you make it, so make it good!
• Make goals. Why? If your goal is to go nowhere, that's just where you will go.

Warnings

• Do not do bad things. What goes around comes around even if it takes decades.
• Be smart, and have a good job.

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I think that this subject is too large. There’s too much that can be said about it. I would need to be split into smaller subject. 

Excellence or not?

Do you have an attitude of excellence?

“Excellence is not a skill. It is an attitude.”

 - Ralph Marston

The root of your attitude is so deep that you can’t fake it. Attitude is the true form of your mind.

“The greatest day in your life and mine is when we take total responsibility for our attitudes. That's the day we truly grow up.”

 - John C. Maxwell

Our attitude is linked to the choices we make. If we choose to build a great attitude, we have better chance to reach it then if we don’t.