We cannot change the past. We can only change the way we see it and how we keep on reacting to it. The past can hunt us as long as we let it do so.
To stop the past from influencing the present, we must forgive. Forgiveness is a powerful way to act in the present and change what shall come next.
“The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.”
- Mahatma Gandhi
First, what needs to be forgiven, is you. Yes, whatever had happened, whatever your involvement in it was, you need to forgive yourself first. Then, and only then will you find the strength to change the influence it has on your present.
“When you forgive, you in no way change the past - but you sure do change the future.”
- Bernard Meltzer
There is no guaranty that forgiving will help anyone else, but it will surely help you.