You have thinking patterns. You are thinking the same way when you are facing the same kind of situation. And the more you use that way of thinking, the more you’ll be using it without thinking about it.
The good news is that you can change any of those patterns. You only need to put your will into doing it.
« The greatest weapon against stress is our ability to choose one thought over another. »
- William James
As time goes by, your patterns becomes highways. They are easy to use and they work very fast. So, the more times you spent using a patterns, the harder it will be to change it.
You have the power to work on your thoughts and change them. It’s up to you to do it or not.