We all do the same. We give our future to someone else in hope that they'll bring it up as you want. Even the best intention leaders can't bring you what you want if you don't act on it yourself.
“You control your future, your destiny. What you think about comes
about. By recording your dreams and goals on paper, you set in motion
the process of becoming the person you most want to be. Put your future
in good hands – your own.” – Mark Victor Hansen
Don't follow a leader if he doesn't have your goal on his path. Set your goal and then if you cross path with someone who's going the same way, why do a part of the trip with him or her. You can associate yourself with others, as long as they're going the same way as you.
Choose wisely your friendship. They're the people who's going to influence your thinking. Your emotion are linked to the people that are around you. If you choose people that are happy most of the time, then it will help you to be happy most of the time. If you choose people that are positive most of the time, then it will help you to be positive most of the time. And the list goes on like that...
Don't choose your friends for the wrong reason. In the past, I chose to associate myself with people that were having more problem then me. I feeling good because I was saying to myself that I had a good life in comparison to them. But in reality, it stopped me from getting a better life. Associate yourself with people that are having a better life then yours. It will motivate you to move up.